BAAF Blog

10 Nov 2014

Siblings on beach

As National Adoption Week comes to a close, we hear from a couple who adopted two sisters and their brother. They share why they decided to adopted a sibling group….

Why Adopt a Sibling Group?

We adopted our three fabulous children nearly 2½ years ago now. At the time they were 3, 4 and nearly 6 years old. Why did we adopt a sibling group? The most obvious reason was that we had always wanted a big family and it seemed logical to us that if we were going to adopt more than one child then it would be nice if they came together and had a shared history. Maybe a less obvious, but probably more emotive, reason was that we both have fond memories of growing up with our own siblings. When we read that sibling groups that cannot find adoptive placements together can be placed separately, it really broke our hearts. And finally we felt that we had so...


07 Nov 2014

Today we hear from an adopter who has adopted two brothers and talks about the importance of keeping in contact with their four other siblings who have been adopted by another two families….

The decision to adopt siblings was a very easy one to make for me personally. I had always known I wanted a big family and despite a few setbacks, adoption was definitely the way forward. During initial telephone discussions with adoption agencies each would ask about how many children we wanted, as well as what age and gender. I actually hadn't realised you could adopt more than one child so it was exciting to think I could have two at once! 

During the assessment process we talked lots about meeting the needs of two vulnerable children and thought about ways in which their traumatic pasts may impact on their sibling relationship. We also discussed cases where siblings are separated and what type of contact may be in place.

After what seemed like forever we...


06 Nov 2014

Catch up with everything that happened at this year's National Adoption Week Awards, via our Storify below...

 


Family on railway

 

Today we have a special blog featuring the views of two adoptees who have had very different experiences.

One who was not brought up with her brother and then 14 year old Lozza who was adopted with her younger brother...

 

 

First up, “A” shares her experience of not being with her younger brother….

I hope future adoptive parents realise how special the sibling bond is

Losing loved ones is one of the most stressful events that can happen in a person’s life and it can have lasting, damaging effects upon a person. Nobody would willingly choose that path for themselves.  It’s hard to lose loved ones but could you imagine tomorrow being the last day you could spend with your 2 year old sister for the rest of your life when you’re 5 years old? That pain would is unimaginable.

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05 Nov 2014

James Williams

Today we hear from James who has adopted two brothers with his partner.  At this year’s National Adoption Week Awards, which took place on 4th November, James was named  “Adoption Champion of the Year”. Here's his story...


Three years ago we made the biggest decision of our lives. We adopted two boys - two brothers, or as the social workers like to refer to them, a sibling pair.

To be honest, I’d never really used the word ‘sibling’ prior to coming into adoption. I never referred to my own brother and sister as my siblings but there is a lot about adoption that is new to us.
For some children being adopted with their siblings is not the best option. I can see the reasoning in some cases, the child needs to learn to attach to their new family, and dysfunctional sibling bonds...


04 Nov 2014

Siblings

On day two of National Adoption Week, we hear from a family who adopted two brothers, then went on to adopt a little girl who became their sister through adoption…

We adopted Tom and Jamie together 6 years ago. They are part of a larger family group and all are placed in great adoptive families. When a younger brother came along, just 11 months younger than our younger son, we were tempted to adopt him too, but decided that with 3 boys with a total of less than 3 years' age gap between them, Jamie would have lost out on his own space and identity. It was a really tough decision, but in the end their birth brother was soon followed by a sister, and they were adopted as another unit. Jamie and his younger brother are so alike it's almost spooky, and we do know that we made the right choice because the match between all the...


03 Nov 2014

Siblings

To launch National Adoption Week we hear from a couple who became a family through an Adoption Activity Day...

We owe our adoption journey happy ending to an Adoption Activity Day.

We are a gay couple, aged 30 and 32 years, we have been together for 11.5 years and had our civil partnership in 2010. We registered interest in adopting in January 2013 and our family was born in July 2014 after successfully being matched with our two children – who are 7 and 4 years old.

Back in the Spring 2014, on my partner’s 30th Birthday, we attended an Adoption Activity Day with some trepidation and exhaustion from an arduous matching process. Fate was clearly on our side that day – as we very nearly didn’t go – but we met our kids, put the wheels in motion and so our family was formed.

In February 2014 we...


27 Oct 2014

National Adoption Week 2014

Ahead of National Adoption Week which launches on 3rd November we hear from Emma who has adopted  a little brother and sister with her husband...

For as long as I can remember, adoption in our family has been ‘normal. My upbringing with my wonderful adoptive family has felt no different to that of my closest friends who grew up with their birth families. Therefore as an adopted adult, I knew I would always want to adopt if I wasn’t able to conceive a baby of my own.

Fast forward 38 years to when my husband and I approached our local authority to apply to adopt. We had been warned by sceptical friends that it was widely reported to be almost ‘impossible’ to adopt in the  21st Century, however our experience of meeting with social workers at a...


21 Oct 2014

Single parent

Julia Wise gave up a high-flying career in television and hectic London life to move to the country and pave the way for what would be a life-changing experience – adopting a child on her own. Here she shares some practical advice and top tips...

I’ve been a single parent for quite some time and, as an “old” hand, I’ve been asked to talk to other women — and men — who are thinking about adoption and want to know what it’s “really like” to adopt without a partner. It’s a difficult question to answer because, as I know from my own experience, it’s hard to hear and understand what life will be like as a single parent of an adopted child until you’re there. But just in case it’s helpful and hoping I won’t frighten anyone away, here are my top tips:

Think carefully about why you want to become a parent. Adoption is about what’s best for the child, not...


13 Oct 2014

It started as a fairly routine request from British Association for Adoption & Fostering (BAAF) to volunteer some adopters and their agency representative who might be willing to travel to London to help with some positive adoption publicity.  BAAF said they were particularly interested in identifying adopters who had met their children through an Adoption Activity Day.

Jane and Shaun were an obvious nomination.  They had first met their wonderful daughter Poppy at an Activity Day in September 2013 and a couple of months later they were matched and planning their first Christmas as a family.  Jane and Shaun were self-confessed Activity Day sceptics, but they had cordially accepted our invitation and somehow Jane had persuaded Shaun that ‘if they were going to do it they were going to do it properly’ and that meant party attitudes and full on Pirates and Princess outfits!

On paper, Poppy was not the match they had been waiting for.  On paper her...